I have heard this a lot! ‘If you don’t love yourself, no one else will’.
Really?
I was with a narcissist. And that was the time when my self esteem was so low that even if he treated me like shit, I thought I deserved it and didn’t oppose much.
Then came a time when I didn’t love myself at all. I had no confidence, I felt like it’s always my fault – I mess up with everything, I could never be as amazing and as attractive as others are, I would never be successful, I can’t do anything.
I was critising myself every single time. I didn’t like myself the way I was. I could note down at least 100 things I wanted to change in me.
That was tough.
And stressful.
I didn’t love myself.
And now when I look back, I noticed a few things –
My friends were always there by my side, telling me how good I am at many other things.
But I didn’t believe that.
My best friend made efforts for me to take a break from this self blame game and enjoy myself.
My mom dad always made efforts to take care of me when I was stressed out.
They’d prepare my favourite food, take me somewhere I love, just to cheer me up.
They also tried to know what was bothering me and talk about possible solutions. But I didn’t tell them.
What could I possibly tell them?
I had no idea what I was doing with my life.
I really hated myself.
But people around me?
They didn’t.
My friends cared for me and my mom dad loved me.
I couldn’t see that. I wasn’t even able to return their love, maybe coz I didn’t love myself.
Our feelings can really trick us sometimes…
When you feel lonely, doesn’t mean you ARE lonely.
When you feel stupid, doesn’t mean you ARE stupid.
When you feel you are not worthy of worthy of happiness, doesn’t mean that’s true.
Feelings just come and go.
Now looking back I just want to tell that struggling Vrunda –
Don’t give up baby. I love you. Open your eyes and see! Everyone loves you. Get away from people who make you feel like you’re nothing.
You are valuable to me.
Moral of the story –
Even when you hate yourself, look around and see. Maybe situation isn’t as worse as you think. Maybe it’s all in your head. Maybe next day you will be able to see how much others love you and value you and more than anything…. Maybe next day you will wake up and see how much you love yourself ❤️
And loving yourself is good… Actually it’s a need. It’s necessary.
But not a criteria to be fulfilled to be loved by others.
This is again a masterpiece. You made me smile. This is really an important message. Thank you so much. You are ready wondeful!😍
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Aww… Ramyani you always make me smile! I really appreciate your kind words and support!!❤️🙏 You are awesome 💖 I sweetest person I’ve met on WordPress
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That is an honour for me. Yaay! 🤗❤️
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I think many of us face this struggle… Then after gaining maturity.. We started to realize like you…. Greate story of inner mind… 😃
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Thanks a lot Tasuri! Yes, we go through lot of ups and downs and finally realise the truth….
Glad we could connect 💕
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Amazing and true story. Never stop loving yourself, whatever be the circumstance 🙂
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Yes Sneha! Thank you for your time and visit! Really appreciate it❤️🙏
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This is amazing and many of us have gone through this as feelings are mutual !!
Just class from u Vrunda !!
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Awww…. Thank you so much Nirant! So happy to know you enjoyed it! ❤️
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Yeah mate
Pleasure always for ur words !!
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Much appreciated 💕😊
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That was a fantabulous read👍. Completely Agree with you Vrunda. May be it is in our head.
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I’m glad you think so too.💕
Thank you so much for your visit and kind words ❤️ Means a lot!
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It was a good read Vrunda 🙂
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Thank you so much Pratik! I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!❤️
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Reblogged this on fiercefabulousfunny and commented:
I’m sharing this because this happened to me. There are many women out there who will read this and say “me too!” It’s important for all of us to stand together, support one another and share our story
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Well said! I think it’s harmful to tell people that they aren’t deserving of love/ respect etc just because they lack it within themselves. Glad this has been pointed out 💕
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True! I agree.
Thanks for stopping by Ash💕 Glad you liked it❤️
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Lovely read
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Thanks a bunch!!🙏❤️
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Beautiful, beautiful post! This might just be the balm on many people’s pains.
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I really hope so!🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words and visit Debjani!❤️
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Extremely impressive❣
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Aww… Thanks a lot Ashish!!❤️
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Oh my goodness! I just wanna say don’t give up baby your didi is also here🌸😇💕 My dear lovely sister. You’re so touching. You’re words are magical. You’re my Inspiration. You gave me so many inspirations and still doing that for me… I love you and your thoughts my sweet heart 💕❤😊🌸
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Thank youuuu didii!!!!!!!
Hearing this from you always always makes my day! I am happy that whatever I do, I always have my didi to support me. You’re my angel🌟❤️
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Aww my sweet heart, yes your didi is always with you…. And not me you’re my so sweet Angel 😇💕❤💕 I love you my sweetu ❤🌸
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Love you too didi❤️ Stay blessed😘
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I totally agree with this! We don’t love others in their best! If we only do that, we don’t really love them maybe.
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Yeah true… I’ve seen partners love eachother every time… No matter what the situation ❤️
Thanks a lot for stopping by Betul!🙏
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Sooooo nice.
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Thank you so much!!🙏
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Moooost wecome! Dear.
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Well said… Even when we hate our self, there will be few people around us who can turn the table…. Blessed are those who have those kind of people in their life…
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Very well said dear Vrunda 😊❤ our loving parents, siblings, friends etc. are real blessings. When a hard time come in our lives and we feel lonely and forget our cheerfulness, it’s them who light us up 😊
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Hi Vrunda,
Loved your article! I had been in the same phase, and now when air is a bit breezey, I realized, my whole family and friends were there all the time for me. It is just the negativity inside us refuses to see their love and care and efforts.
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Yes Deeksha so true! I’m so glad you could relate to this. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement!!🙏 It’s great to hear from you😊
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☺️☺️
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Aw this is such an amazing post. You are valuable to me to for sharing your heart so openly. Thank you for the inspiration ❤
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Aww I inspire you?😍
You are the one who always inspires me Vanessa! I love your work. Keep going! And thank you so much for your sweet words!! Means a lot! 🙏😊
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Sure thing! 😊 When I read you I can relate a lot. That’s always a nice feeling ❤ Thank you for your support lovely, you're the sweetest 🙏
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Great post.
This line means that in such condition we wouldn’t value the love of others for ourselves
“If you don’t love yourself, no one else will”.
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Beautiful!
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Thank you for talking about such a vulnerable topic. I understand you when you say you have hated yourself. I’ve been there, too. I think love is so close to hate. If we can take a few steps, we can see how much we love ourselves and truly want to have a connection.
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True. When the person with you constantly shows you how superior he is and how inferior you are, it’s hard to love yourself… I am happy you understand. Thank you for your kind words my friend! Means a lot!❤😊
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Yes, I ended this kind of relationship and felt free. That’s the first step to loving yourself. 🙌🏻
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This was SO my life! Right down to the relationship with a narcissist. Whoa
I’m glad you’re over that. You sound so much more braver…is that a word?🤔 it is now.
Good wisdom you’ve shared here my friend.
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Aww… Thank you so much Dorothy! I’m overwhelmed by such lovely comments and kind words shared by everyone on WordPress. Means a lot to me!🙏
I’m glad we could connect!
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You’re welcome. I’m glad we’re connected as well.
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This post contains feelings that almost everyone experiences in their life. You have expressed your thoughts so beautifully. So true and equally motovating…. Lovely!!
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Thank you so much Raushan! I appreciate your kind words 🙏
Thanks a lot for stopping by💕
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So agree with you… beauutifuuul pist
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