“My girlfriend broke up with me. I am having problems at workplace and I can barely afford to pay the rent.
How can I be optimistic?”
I can understand. It’s not easy. But there are a few things I want you to consider. Being optimistic or not is your choice. Let’s look at the facts –
• Optimism is about being honest with yourself –
Yes, optimism is about being honest with yourself. Let me share a quote here that emphasizes my point.
I understand you might have some things going wrong in your life, it’s not turning out the way you expected it to.
It’s hard to be optimistic in such cases. But there can be some things that you can look forward to.
Yes, your girlfriend broke up with you, and you might be feeling like you will end up single and alone. But take time to consider that you have a few loyal friends who have your back in every situation.
You are having a hard time at workplace or your business. And you feel like ‘what the heck am I doing with my life?’ But you can take some time to consider that you’re also learning new skills that will be beneficial in the long run.
There are some good things happening too. Instead of polarised thinking, i.e – thinking in extremes, you can take some time to look at the situation with a different and more optimistic perspective.
This is not just telling your mind to believe ‘everything will be alright’ but instead looking for such evidences and focusing on them.
• Optimism helps you look forward to your future.
You might have tried to change your situation. You struggled a lot, but you weren’t able to make it. Then it’s pretty natural to think that ‘maybe this isn’t for me afterall. This is my destiny. I’ve accepted it. I have to live like this.’
I know it hurts really bad to think that whatever you do, you won’t be able to get out of this situation, this struggle. So you give up. You accept this as your fate and continue to live with it.
While you choose to do so, I want you to take a moment and ask yourself – Is this what a really want?
If the answer is no, don’t give up on yourself. It’s that strong desire of a better future, better life that will keep you going, that will help you battle your demons.
I know it’s hard to be optimistic when nothing seems to go right, but I want you to remember that – This is not your final destination. This is not what you will settle for.
If you’re tired, feel like quitting, take a break. Relax. Reorganise your thoughts. Observe your feelings. Do whatever you think will help you.
Remember that being optimistic about future will help you come back with great energy and better mindset.
What is hope but a feeling of optimism, a thought that says things will improve, it won’t always be be bleak (and) there’s a way to rise above the present circumstances.
– Wayne Dyer
• Optimism is something you can develop –
Optimism does not always come naturally. Especially when dealing with your own problems, you’re not as likely to be optimistic. But when your friend has the same problem you find at least one thing to be optimistic about.
We need to consider the fact that we can develop a optimistic attitude.
It’s about acknowledging the present struggles and knowing that there are also some good things to smile for in the present and keeping faith that future will be better.
There are some exercises you can practice to become more optimistic. Click here to find out
Optimism may not change everything, but it changes much of your beliefs. And this might help you deal better with the situation.
Here’s a quote I really love from Hellen Keller :
No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit.
– Hellen Keller.
Here are some facts about Optimistis –
1. Optimists tend to live longer than pessimists. Research has shown that optimists tend to live 8 – 10 years longer than pessimists!
2. Researchers from Stanford University have found that optimists have higher quality and longer lasting romantic relationships.
3. Research has shown that optimistic people are better at bouncing back from adversity.
4. Optimistic thinking helps you stay focused and motivated.
5. Optimism promotes gratitude. You tend to feel grateful for things are going well and appreciate them.
So what do you think? Are you ready to practice optimism in your life? Want to try looking at things with a optimistic perspective?
Give it a try!