Do you feel this?
Like everyone around you has it better…
They have better relationships than you do
They have better clothes, gadgets and things than you do
They have better life overall than you do….
Sometimes this comparison can make you feel so little… tiny….
You feel left out… From the big group of those who have-it-all
“I never get anything when I really want it” I find myself saying this too often these days..
It feels like you’re falling into the deep blackhole and you’ve nothing to hold on to
And it feels like you’re alone here… Everyone is actually pretty happy with their lives
You also feel like disconnecting from everyone..
You feel like they all are better than you and you somehow don’t deserve to be with them
You feel lost….
Without a clue about what to do or how to feel better about yourself… and your “situation”
Maybe this is exactly the time you need connection
Maybe this is exactly the time you need to feel grateful for what you have
Maybe this is exactly the time you need to be kind and compassionate to yourself
You can say something like –
I know I don’t have as many things as others do. But maybe what I need right now is not to have the latest gadget but to be satisfied with what I have. There is this need of having better stuff than others, strong desire to be better than others, but it won’t go away if I feed it.
I need to tell myself I already have enough.
Lemme count all the things that I have and I feel blessed to have them. Let me just take a moment to appreciate all I have.
I know I need more. It would be really cool to have that expensive drawing stuff because I love drawing so much.
But I really need to be kind to myself. It’s okay. I know I’m not the only one experiencing this. Many people must be feeling this way. I am not alone. Yes, I know it hurts, but I also know things won’t be the same in few years.
Things will change. I have the ability and willingness to change the course of my life. I need to trust myself and carry on.
I need to connect with people. My people. My loved ones. The people whom I can count on. Who know me truly and who want to be with me and see me succeed.
All I need is their support, their love and care. I need to talk to someone who really understands me. Who encourages me to do better. Withdrawal can seem like a easy thing to do. But it won’t help. I need my people.
So I basically applied all the positive psychology principles I knew about and wrote this.
And now I seriously feel much better.
I am going to read this every time I feel so again!
Hope you guys find it helpful too!
Sending love ❤️