Lies

“I would like you to be mine forever”
“I need you for the rest of my life”
“I love you”
“I can do anything for you”
“I won’t leave you”
Words said by you….
Playing in my head as I try to sleep

I wonder how much
of it
did you actually mean

I didn’t expect you
To bring moons and stars
For me

All I ever wanted
was honesty

It happens sometimes
When you’re happy
You lie
When you’re sad
You say what you don’t mean

But the problem
Occurs
When it becomes a habit
So much so
That now
It’s hard for me
To distinguish
Your lies
from the truth

© Vrunda Chauk

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To all the people who give advice without listening

It’s not just about the advice. It’s okay, I understand you might feel the pressure to come up with a creative solution or magically make the problem disappear.

But it doesn’t work.

When I come to you with my problem.. I want you take the time to hear me out. I want you to understand me and listen to me. Because it wasn’t easy for me to talk about this. If I’m gathering up the courage to speak about something that’s bothering me I don’t want you to treat it like unimportant trivial thing and show me how wrong I’m doing.

Trust me I’ve had enough of that.

When someone gathers the courage to speak up, all you need to do is listen.. and understand.

Most of the times it’s enough.

And let’s be real, there isn’t advice for everything on this planet.

When someone is depressed you can’t tell that person it’s all your fault or how can you “get over it”. Sometimes the best they can do is to go through the pain.. go through the pain thinking it’s a part of life and they have their loved ones besides them.. even that support of having someone by your side means so much!

Let me tell you what happens when you give advice without listening.. you lack empathy. You cannot think from the other person’s perspective and cannot understand what he/she is going through. When you can’t understand how they think and feel, you’re more likely to complicate the situation coming up with some silly conclusion. It’s like you are giving the exam and don’t know which paper you are solving.. you’re bound to fail.

Think about a time when you were feeling sad and hurt. What did you need most at that time? Advice? Maybe if you’re stressed about a very important problem. Maybe if your only goal is solving the problem.

But most of the times you need someone to listen to you… Simply listen.. and understand. Someone who would genuinely care. Someone who would be kind to you when you forget to be kind to yourself.

Be that to someone when they need you.

Set free

There’s this bird you love

You love it so much.. you put it in a beautiful cage

You give that bird everything it needs to survive, you shower your love and care..

You take care of everything! You make sure everything is perfect for your little bird..

You make sure limited people have access to it.. you don’t want some people to hurt the bird

Still you wonder…. Why isn’t the bird happy?

Because you forget…

Along with care, it needs freedom… It wants to be free..

It’s heart longs to explore the world and get out of the cage…

It wants to fly.. fall.. then get up and fly again.. even if this isn’t “protective” it is healthy for the bird…


There are countless times when we do this with humans as well

When we love someone all we want to do is protect that person from all negativity, all possible harm..

We also don’t set them free because we’re scared… Will they come back to me after exploring this world? Will they find something more beautiful than me? More smart, more charming than me?

Sometimes all we need to do is trust and let go….

Let them fail, let them make mistakes… Let them learn.. let them explore.. we cannot protect our loved ones from everything.. But we can make sure that they won’t have to go through this alone….. And most of the times, that’s more than enough

And everyone gravitates to someone who gives them freedom and love ♥️

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