Indicators of spiritual growth –
1. Your life flows with effortless spontaneity
2. Love is becoming the motivating factor of your life
3. You are discovering hidden sources of creativity and imagination
4. You are accepting higher guidance into your life
5. Your choices benefit you and all those around you
– Deepak Chopra
Everyone these days is waiting for something. Everyone is expecting something new, something different to happen.
We have gotten into the habit of asking ‘What’s next?’ , What’s the next big thing you want? What’s the next big thing you are waiting for?
It’s something like – when we’re children, we want to grow up. When we grow up, we want to become child again.
I mean we want some things to change, but when they do, we want to go back again.
This happens a lottt (hating your present and wishing it were different).
When you are single you wish you were engaged with someone, when you are, you again wish to be single.
When you are not earning you wish for the time you would, when the time comes, you wish to get out of it.
When you are in school you are excited about your college life. When you start going to college, you miss school.
When you are at home, you wish to step out and live on your own, when the time comes, you long for the warmth of your home.
Soo, instead of expecting something different – Why don’t we cherish our present moment?
If you do not enjoy a moment, you lose it forever. If you enjoy it, it is yours forever.
Don’t you think we should stop waiting for the next big thing and start enjoying our life moment to moment?
And when you start living the present moment, believe me you will find so many things that are beautiful right now. So much to appreciate. So much to notice. So much to feel.
As I write this – I’m at my home. There won’t be any lectures in college today. So am I waiting for the time when I’ll go to college and meet my friends? No. (i mean of course i want to meet them but i have decided to enjoy the present moment) When I’m at home I want to spend some time with my parents. I want to feel the moments when they are with me, we all are living together, I get to see them everyday. I want to notice the way they smile, I want to remember their voice when they say my name.
I want to enjoy time with my little sister. I want to make her laugh, I want to paint with her, play with her, sing and dance with her, watch her grow.
Because I know – This time won’t come back.
I choose to live it fully. I choose to feel the moments with my loved ones. I choose to stay in present.
Above all, we cannot afford not to live in the present. He is blessed over all mortals who loses no moment of the passing life in remembering the past.
– Henry David Thoreau
Look around you, everything that you see can change in a year.
Are there some people you want to spend more time with?
Are there some things you want to do for them?
Are there some plans you need to execute?
Are there any trips you want to plan?
Is there someone whom you want to remind of how loved he/she is?
Is there anything you need to do for yourself?
You better do it Right Now, because you haven’t seen tomorrow.
Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts.
– Pema Chodron
Even when you step into sunshine in winter. Close your eyes and feel it’s warmth. Feel that’s it’s 2019. This day will never come back. Open your eyes and notice the surroundings, do you find beauty? Smile at your friends and enjoy your time with them.
Many people are alive, but don’t touch the miracle of being alive.
– Thich Nath Hanh
There’s this beautiful poem I’d like to share –
Live In The Moment
Listen, feel, love completely;
Absorb, enjoy oh so sweetly.
Nothing exists but right now.
Show the world you know how.
Immersed, focused, involved;
Sad moments will be resolved
Just as joyous times go fast,
Sad’s shadow will lose its cast.
It’s but a moment all will live,
So leave an imprint that will give
Your signature on the past
So your moments now will last.
– Gregory Huyette
Hello friends! Today I want to share some poems and quotes by one my favourite authors – Mary Oliver.
She has written beautifully about life and human emotions. I try to remind myself some of her words whenever I am going through a hard phase. That helps me to look at the situation with a different perspective and helps me reconnect with myself. Her writings are easy to understand and relatable. I thoroughly enjoy reading her poems. Here are some of my favourite pieces of her writings –
One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
their bad advice –
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do –
determined to save
the only life you could save.
– Mary Oliver
I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the rivers
flow in the right direction, will the earth turn
as it was taught, and if not how shall
I correct it?
Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,
can I do better?
Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrows
can do it and I am, well,
Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,
am I going to get rheumatism,
Finally I saw that worrying had come to nothing.
And gave it up. And took my old body
and went out into the morning,
Every morning when I open my curtains for that first look at the day, no matter what the day looks like – raining, foggy, overcast, sunny – my heart swells with gratitude. I get another chance.
– Oprah Winfrey
Today I’ll be sharing some events from my life when I learnt the importance of being grateful. Many of you can relate to it as well.
I’d like to share how feeling grateful helped me enhance my happiness and helped me become more hopeful.
Day 1 – I was in 9th grade at that time. We were preparing for the farewell party of 10th standard students. We were busy with the preparations, working together, chatting with eachother and having fun.
On the day of farewell, we were super excited for the party. All went well, there were games, music and dance and there was also a session where the students were going to share their memories of our school.
I remember how good I felt listening to those stories. They shared the times when they won a competition, when they were scolded by teachers, when they received moral support and encouragement by teachers and the fun time they had during annual gatherings and picnics.
Some of the studens cried as they would be missing their friends, their fun memories and the teachers.
One girl said “Time flies! I remember it as yesterday when I took admission here for 5th grade. Teachers and students were so welcoming and friendly that I got along with them in no time. Now I look back at those years and realise how beautiful the journey has been.”
I suddenly felt how would it be next year, when we would be leaving the school.
I truly felt grateful that we had another year being in school. Because of that feeling of gratitude and the desire to create good memories, I found myself interacting more with friends I don’t usually speak a lot to and participating in many different competitions just to make memories.
The feeling of gratitude can help you enjoy and feel the days, months, years, you have left in a particular setting. This time will pass by soon, so why not enjoy it and find beauty in little things and live the moments.
Day 2 – It was when I won prize at elocution competition. I practiced really hard and finally I won.
My heart was full and overflowing with gratitude. I felt thankful to my teachers for helping me, to my parents for encouraging me, to my friends for cheering for me and to myself for putting in the work. I felt so confident and happy.
I allowed myself to take the credit for my work and be thankful to everyone for their support.
The feeling of gratitude can help you become more confident and happy. Instead of giving someone else the credit for your success, allow yourself to feel grateful for your achievement. You will remember that for a long time.
When you acknowledge people’s efforts and thank them, they feel good and they like to share the joy with you.
Day 3 – I remember watching the movie ‘Anand’ of Rajesh Khanna. It was so beautiful and touching that the message is still imprinted in my heart.
That was the story of a cancer patient and his attitude towards life. How happy and enthusiastic he was! Even after holding so much pain in his heart, he believed in bringing people together and making them smile. He was thankful for every single moment and he lived his life to the fullest.
That movie still makes me feel grateful for being alive. Isn’t it wonderful just to be alive? To get to experience this beautiful world and to spread your light.
The feeling of gratitude for every passing moment makes us more aware to enjoy this life. We don’t know what will happen next, we’ve got one life, let’s be grateful for being alive.
Day 4 – I was going through my first breakup.
It was a very hard time for me. (You know at first we have that strong belief that our first boyfriend or girlfriend will be the one we’ll get married to and when it doesn’t happen, we feel angry and sad and have that constant struggle to move on.)
At that time I was so fortunate to have my best friend by my side. She helped me get through it. There were so many times when she listened to me patiently, without judging me and she was the only one who didn’t gave me any advice. I was being bombarded with so many different advices from my friends. She was the only one who encouraged me to explore the solutions myself. Honestly, she helped me heal.
I feel so grateful to have such understanding and kind and lovely friend in my life. There were times when I took her for granted, but this feeling of gratitude towards her, feeling blessed to have her in my life, that is something that has made me give her the love and care she deserves every time.
Feeling grateful for the people around you, constantly reminds you of the good things they did for you, the good times you spent together. This strengthens your relationship.
You tend to evaluate the relationship in a more positive light when you feel grateful.
Day 5 – One of my friend was going through a tough time. She had problems at home and she was not doing well in college.
I listened to her. Listened patiently and sincerely. I didn’t give any advice. I validated her pain. Before leaving, she hugged me and said she was grateful for my time and support.
That day onwards, she started treating me much better. She was good to me before, but now she started trusting me more and responding more.
There are these small moments in our life when someone helps us and we feel good. When we express our gratitude, we tend to reciprocate more.
If someone was kind to me and I feel grateful for that it’s more likely that I will do kind deeds to that person and to others more often.
Day 6 – Okay, so this was the time when we had Valentine’s day in college. It was the month of February and couples were busy planning their day together.
Me and few of my friends were single. We were irritated by the constant buzz going around for Valentine’s day.
I saw a video on YouTube about valentine’s day that reminded people to spread love on this special day. That’s when it clicked – Valentine’s day is celebration of LOVE! It’s not necessary you should be engaged to someone to celebrate it. You can celebrate it with people you love.
I shared that video with my friends. We decided to spend the morning time with our families and give them gifts for taking care of us and loving us unconditionally. In the evening we girls met and had a wonderful time together.
At that night I saw many posts on Instagram from my friends about how amazing their day was, and how their bae surprised them.. and looking at their pictures I didn’t feel jealous or bad. I really felt happy for them and more than anything, I felt happy for myself. I felt extremely grateful to have such wonderful parents and amazing friends who have my back no matter what.
So, these were my experiences with gratitude and how it helped me.
Can you relate to this? Are there similar experiences in your life? How do you think being grateful can help you?
Share with me in comments below.
Thank you so much for being here🙏❤️
I live in the space of thankfulness — and for that, I have been rewarded a million times over. I started out giving thanks for small things, and the more thankful I became, the more my bounty increased. That’s because — for sure — what you focus on expands. When you focus on the goodness in life, you create more of it.
– Oprah Winfrey
Hope you have a beautiful Sunday🌈💙