When you feel like you’re not enough..

Do you feel this?

Like everyone around you has it better…

They have better relationships than you do

They have better clothes, gadgets and things than you do

They have better life overall than you do….

Sometimes this comparison can make you feel so little… tiny….

You feel left out… From the big group of those who have-it-all

“I never get anything when I really want it” I find myself saying this too often these days..

It feels like you’re falling into the deep blackhole and you’ve nothing to hold on to

And it feels like you’re alone here… Everyone is actually pretty happy with their lives

You also feel like disconnecting from everyone..

You feel like they all are better than you and you somehow don’t deserve to be with them

You feel lost….

Left out…

Without a clue about what to do or how to feel better about yourself… and your “situation”

Maybe this is exactly the time you need connection

Maybe this is exactly the time you need to feel grateful for what you have

Maybe this is exactly the time you need to be kind and compassionate to yourself

You can say something like –

I know I don’t have as many things as others do. But maybe what I need right now is not to have the latest gadget but to be satisfied with what I have. There is this need of having better stuff than others, strong desire to be better than others, but it won’t go away if I feed it.

I need to tell myself I already have enough.

Lemme count all the things that I have and I feel blessed to have them. Let me just take a moment to appreciate all I have.

I know I need more. It would be really cool to have that expensive drawing stuff because I love drawing so much.

But I really need to be kind to myself. It’s okay. I know I’m not the only one experiencing this. Many people must be feeling this way. I am not alone. Yes, I know it hurts, but I also know things won’t be the same in few years.

Things will change. I have the ability and willingness to change the course of my life. I need to trust myself and carry on.

I need to connect with people. My people. My loved ones. The people whom I can count on. Who know me truly and who want to be with me and see me succeed.

All I need is their support, their love and care. I need to talk to someone who really understands me. Who encourages me to do better. Withdrawal can seem like a easy thing to do. But it won’t help. I need my people.

So I basically applied all the positive psychology principles I knew about and wrote this.

And now I seriously feel much better.

I am going to read this every time I feel so again!

Hope you guys find it helpful too!

Sending love ❤️

Know better do better quotes

It is doubtful whether any heavier curse could be imposed on man than the complete gratification of all his wishes without effort on his part, leaving nothing for his hopes, desires and struggles.

– Samuel Smiles

I’ve experienced this so much during lockdown. I mean my basic needs were met. But there was no need to work, like no pressure to study.

Earlier it was fun.

But then I realised there is no enjoyment without work.

No fun in being idle

Doing something you love is fun

Real joy is doing what you love and doing something engaging.. something that is really meaningful to you.

I mean seriously imagine…

What would happen if you had everything you wanted and you didn’t have to work?

Can you live like that?

Maybe for a month… Maybe three months maximum

But I cannot live like that

I realise there is so much joy in working

We don’t really give work the respect it deserves now do we?

Hating Mondays is like a worldwide phenomenon

Okay maybe I don’t get it coz I don’t work yet

But because of this lonnngggg lockdown maybe we all would have realised the importance of looking forward to work, having something good to do..

This quote made me realise that maybe we should feel blessed that we get to work.. every day

Speaking of which…

I am just done submitting my case studies and essays for positive psychology exam. yayyyyy! (just one module done! thankfully 7 more to go.. hey I love learning it.. 😅)

Now I’ve to study for final year exam next month

I’ll start from Monday!

(if I feel like studying.. :p)

But really need a break now!

Good night guyssss!!❤️❤️❤️

Just saying

How do you deal with people whose behaviour you don’t approve of?

Especially when that member is of importance, your boss, or your colleague or even a family member?

Seriously what do you do?

Tbh I find it really hard to deal with these people.

With all people actually, I don’t know… I guess I am not so good at dealing with everyone

If our vibe matches?

Great. You will get to see the real me

But if it doesn’t

I might not even feel like talking to you

Idk why this happens. It’s weird… Like I kinda feel suffocated…if I’m forced to do something I don’t want to do

I am not rude as such, if the person still talks to me I will reply and all.. I’ll be good

But I won’t feel like initiating conversation or like being good and smiling all the time with that person who I don’t even like.

I have a friend who smiles and genuinely is a happy person. Even in front of the people who trouble her, or those she has problems adjusting with…

Idk how she manages that

To be so optimistic and positive

Sometimes I wish I was more of that person….

It’s not that she fakes and I’m the one being real and honest

It’s that… She is much better adjusting with all this

I can’t do that. Idk why

I want to be on good terms with everyone, I genuinely want to… But I just can’t stand some behaviours of people and I don’t know what to do then

Especially problem arises when they are older than you and have authority…

You can’t even tell them anything… They just turn the point around and everything is your fault… And then you feel bad

Ik yelling or breaking away is not the point

The person is not completely bad

But yeah…. I feel trouble adjusting (is it too millennial of me?!)

Maybe thinking about the good things they’ve done for me or reminding myself of all the good qualities they have would work.

I am still trying.

I hope I improve my relationship with this person. Matters a lot to me❤️

But seriously, I find relationships very confusing. Not romantic, every type of relationship. Even friendships some times.

Like you don’t have clue what to do….

It takes lot of time to analyse what they did wrong, where I was mistaken.. and I want to be honest here so it really takes time breaking the ego barrier and accepting my fault… Because I don’t want to loose the person.

So idk… I think a lot… It becomes too confusing

But I’m still learning to adjust…. Still learning to maintain relationships

Do you guys have any tips or anything? What do you do in such situations? Can you relate with this or just me?

Please tell me you can relate :p

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