Things that happen when your bff gets engaged

So this is the thing about best friends – They are meant for each other. They are soulmates. They are there for each other when no one was. They are comfortable with each other and can be their craziest, weirdest self in front of each other. Everything goes well until……. One of them gets engaged!

Recently my bff got engaged.

And I was like…..

“Yeah okay…. She’s engaged, but we will still be there for each other. Our bond will be as good as it was.” At least that’s what I told myself.

Then reality hits hard.

When you plan to hangout with your bestie she replies – “Hey, I’m so sorry I can’t come. I’m on a date! I’ll tell you how it goes, okay bye!”

And you’re like – “Omg! This is happening for 7 times in a row now. This is the exact same person who called me when she forgot her Hall ticket on the examination day, when she got dumped by her boyfriend last year, when she is having arguments with her parents,…. Every single time I was there for her! I was her go-to person! Now you have to take her appointment to meet her????”

Earlier when you guys met, the topics would be planning trips, gossips, sharing progress about the projects we’re working on, interesting stuff you did this week and so on…

Now when you hangout – she talks about her boyfriend, and college and her boyfriend and the food and her boyfriend and his interests and… If nothing else… She calls him and they start talking

That’s one of those times when you look at her and think about how can you kill her….. (Just kidding… But not kidding :p)

Then comes a time when she tells you to click her pics…. With her boyfriend!

You shot her a mean look, which she ignores. As you click the pic, in your mind you are hitting her boyfriend for taking your place in her pics.

Then sometimes she drags you to buy gifts for him, you know the romantic cheesy stuff…

You actually don’t do anything, just try to control your urge to sleep and watch her as she selects gifts… And wonder what’s wrong with her!

When they have fights, you are the one who has to stay up whole night analysing the situation and figure out who’s wrong and in the end convince her that she deserves a better guy… :p but she doesn’t listen to you… As always… sigh*

When they get back together…it all starts again!

Ugh!!!

Then you start getting thoughts like ” I am the only one who’s left behind.. literally everyone around me is engaged (just your bestie, but you know she’s your world) Should I date Amit? I know he likes me.. but he’s too clingy… Then Vinay? No.. he’s good but he’s always busy! Umm… Rahul? Yeah.. he’s been my crush for a long time. But I don’t think we get along well, we are from totally different worlds! Besides he moved out of the city last year. How can I show her how it feels when she does all this torture to me when my boyfriend isn’t even in the city! Aahhhhh! It feels like love triangle. Except me and my best friend love each other and her boyfriend is messing around!😂”

*phone buzzes

Oh… A text from her –

“We broke up”

How I really feel – 😀

What I show – 😥


So this was a fun write up I came up with! We have to do research this year in psychology and me and my friends were discussing about it and this came up!

How best friends behave when one of them gets engaged and the other person is left behind.

Like seriously, when you are the center of someone’s world and you feel good about it and then suddenly someone else comes up and takes your place just like that!

Research toh banta hai! :p

What do you think guys? I’m sure you must’ve been in this situation at some point. How did you feel? What did you do?

Share in the comments below!

“I’ve been there too..”

I met this guy online.

I read his blogs and more than his thoughts, I liked his writing style, the way he expressed himself.

We started talking, first through comments and then we exchanged numbers.

In few weeks we became really good friends. We could easily connect with each other.

But there was a problem –

He speaks English very well, but he cannot speak Hindi so well.

And let me tell you – I don’t speak English fluently. It’s different while writing blogs, you get time to think and edit.

But I don’t have much experience of speaking in English. All my friends understand Hindi and Marathi. So you see… I don’t have that much opportunity to speak English in my daily life.

So when he offered to talk on call, I was really scared!😨

(What will he think of me when he realises I cannot speak fluently in English? would he continue to talk to me? I don’t want to loose his friendship.. Shit! I should’ve practiced this.. How can I be so dumb?! I am clearly not enough, I am ashamed of myself )

I couldn’t figure out what to do. But I decided I should be honest with him and let him see my flaws.

It was hard. I thought I might loose him, loose our friendship.

But I made a choice. I had two options – Be fake and hide and continue with him or Be authentic and vulnerable and risk loosing him.

I chose the second option.

Finally, we talked on call, I told him I’m not so good at speaking English.. and to my surprise… he understood me and didn’t belittle me

(Actually I thought he was a nice guy and had this feeling that he won’t judge me.. turns out.. I was right!)

I did most of the talk in Hindi, I told him I’m comfortable with it and he said he understood Hindi. He replied in English. That was weird actually… Haha…

But that was a really fun conversation! We spoke many times after that and now I’m practicing speaking in English with him and he’s trying to improve his Hindi with me.

Now he could have judged me for not speaking well in English and made himself feel good…. But he didn’t. He understood what it meant to not be able to speak a language fluently (as he had problems with Hindi)

So instead of making me feel bad about myself, he chose to be vulnerable about his flaws and lent me a helping hand.

Why I chose to share this?

Well I am reading a book of Bernè Brown, she’s a shame and vulnerability researcher.

And this incident resonated with what she had shared…

The solution to being stuck in shame is not to denigrate others stuck just like us, but to join hands and pull free together.

-Berne Brown

He literally did this for me. Not being able to speak a widely used language brings shame, but it can be overthrown if we share our own story and support each other.

If we’re going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light.

– Bernè Brown


Okay, so this wasn’t example of extreme shame and distress, but you get the point.

That’s more important! 🙂


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