this helps me get back up, always

I have noticed one thing.

Every time I feel sad, lonely, gloomy

There this one thing that cheers me up like nothing

And those effects last longer

Any guesses?

No not music… I mean it’s good… But when I’m actually pissed off I don’t really feel like listening to music because in my mind overthinking and overanalyzing is going on…

So reading?

It does actually, it helps me escape the dreadful reality that’s in front of me…

But that’s just an escape (I do feel more calm and stable after reading though)

But there is one more thing

Love

Love expressed through the verbal assurance (i love you) and indirectly (genuine caring, supportive conversations) and through actions (doing something beautiful for me)

I was feeling very low the other day

And I had a very meaningful, nice chat with my best friend

She listened to me, understood me and made me feel much better

That uplifted my mood, calmed me down and gave me the strength to get back up again

This incident made me reflect, every single time I’ve felt low or sad or been really stressed

All it took to cheer me up was kind words, genuine support, encouraging smile, warm hug, relaxing good time spent with people I love

Isn’t this what we all need to get back up, even more stronger this time?

What works the best for you?

Know better do better quotes

It is doubtful whether any heavier curse could be imposed on man than the complete gratification of all his wishes without effort on his part, leaving nothing for his hopes, desires and struggles.

– Samuel Smiles

I’ve experienced this so much during lockdown. I mean my basic needs were met. But there was no need to work, like no pressure to study.

Earlier it was fun.

But then I realised there is no enjoyment without work.

No fun in being idle

Doing something you love is fun

Real joy is doing what you love and doing something engaging.. something that is really meaningful to you.

I mean seriously imagine…

What would happen if you had everything you wanted and you didn’t have to work?

Can you live like that?

Maybe for a month… Maybe three months maximum

But I cannot live like that

I realise there is so much joy in working

We don’t really give work the respect it deserves now do we?

Hating Mondays is like a worldwide phenomenon

Okay maybe I don’t get it coz I don’t work yet

But because of this lonnngggg lockdown maybe we all would have realised the importance of looking forward to work, having something good to do..

This quote made me realise that maybe we should feel blessed that we get to work.. every day

Speaking of which…

I am just done submitting my case studies and essays for positive psychology exam. yayyyyy! (just one module done! thankfully 7 more to go.. hey I love learning it.. 😅)

Now I’ve to study for final year exam next month

I’ll start from Monday!

(if I feel like studying.. :p)

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But really need a break now!

Good night guyssss!!❤️❤️❤️

Just saying

How do you deal with people whose behaviour you don’t approve of?

Especially when that member is of importance, your boss, or your colleague or even a family member?

Seriously what do you do?

Tbh I find it really hard to deal with these people.

With all people actually, I don’t know… I guess I am not so good at dealing with everyone

If our vibe matches?

Great. You will get to see the real me

But if it doesn’t

I might not even feel like talking to you

Idk why this happens. It’s weird… Like I kinda feel suffocated…if I’m forced to do something I don’t want to do

I am not rude as such, if the person still talks to me I will reply and all.. I’ll be good

But I won’t feel like initiating conversation or like being good and smiling all the time with that person who I don’t even like.

I have a friend who smiles and genuinely is a happy person. Even in front of the people who trouble her, or those she has problems adjusting with…

Idk how she manages that

To be so optimistic and positive

Sometimes I wish I was more of that person….

It’s not that she fakes and I’m the one being real and honest

It’s that… She is much better adjusting with all this

I can’t do that. Idk why

I want to be on good terms with everyone, I genuinely want to… But I just can’t stand some behaviours of people and I don’t know what to do then

Especially problem arises when they are older than you and have authority…

You can’t even tell them anything… They just turn the point around and everything is your fault… And then you feel bad

Ik yelling or breaking away is not the point

The person is not completely bad

But yeah…. I feel trouble adjusting (is it too millennial of me?!)

Maybe thinking about the good things they’ve done for me or reminding myself of all the good qualities they have would work.

I am still trying.

I hope I improve my relationship with this person. Matters a lot to me❤️

But seriously, I find relationships very confusing. Not romantic, every type of relationship. Even friendships some times.

Like you don’t have clue what to do….

It takes lot of time to analyse what they did wrong, where I was mistaken.. and I want to be honest here so it really takes time breaking the ego barrier and accepting my fault… Because I don’t want to loose the person.

So idk… I think a lot… It becomes too confusing

But I’m still learning to adjust…. Still learning to maintain relationships

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Do you guys have any tips or anything? What do you do in such situations? Can you relate with this or just me?

Please tell me you can relate :p

Know better do better quotes

Indicators of spiritual growth –

1. Your life flows with effortless spontaneity

2. Love is becoming the motivating factor of your life

3. You are discovering hidden sources of creativity and imagination

4. You are accepting higher guidance into your life

5. Your choices benefit you and all those around you

– Deepak Chopra

Wordless Wednesday

okay, it’s not so good.

but i did enjoy drawing this, listening to music, sitting near the window, drinking coffee, drizzle rain outside….. memorable ❤️

first effort

#quarantinediaries