You allow yourself to be in a state of openness. You witness what is going on, you hang loose, you obey when the right impulse takes hold. This is how life is lived spontaneously.
– Deepak Chopra
What will happen?
When will it happen?
How will will happen?
Will it even happen?
What if it doesn’t happen?
Tooooo many questions
And I don’t know the answer
I’m not even close
Lack of patience… That’s what this is
These days we are so crazy about instant access
We don’t want to wait
When I hear about a good book
I go crazy searching for it online..
I am impatient
I order it right away
When I actually get it
I’m like okay.. that’s a relief
But I don’t read it
Then I find something new to be impatient about
This is becoming a common problem for youngsters these days…
No patience… At allllll!
Our minds are filled with junk of overthinking…
Sometimes it goes to such a length that we think something, over analyse something and it becomes such a huge deal in our mind that when we talk about it or act about it, the person has no idea what is happening…..
We might hurt the person, we might hurt ourselves and everything might go wrong…
I’m just saying
Overthinking, lack of patience is bad…
Most of the times we don’t get clarity about the situation but increase the problems instead…
Maybe we should practice mindfulness and stuff
But then you even need patience to be patient
Ik we need to work about this…
And practice is the only way we can get better…
I’ve read that for mindfulness you don’t need to actually sit in meditation posture and calm your mind for like half an hour…
It even works if you are just focusing on the present moment for 5 mins
Like when you drink tea for example –
You need be completely in the present moment… Looking at the colour of the tea, feeling it’s warmth, noticing it’s aroma.. feeling the taste….
That is how you mindfully drink tea, or be in the moment
Maybe that’s the easy way to practice it…
Being mindful for at least 5 mins a day
Idk how much this will help…. But we can definitely start from here
I am also planning to listen guided meditation for 15 mins every night before I sleep…
There seems to be too much chaos in my mind….
Hope that will help…
At least I’ll get a peaceful sleep at night 💕
Are you struggling with patience too?
Or are you a pro at mindfulness?
Lemme know your experiences….💗
In my school on parents teachers meeting or report day, one thing teachers never forgot to tell..
Where we lack and where we need to improve
Every year for all the years I was in school
I used to hear this “she needs to improve….”
Not just about me
No matter how brilliant the student is…. All the teacher would say was – “she needs to get better at…..”
Sometimes they also used to congratulate on specific achievement the child has earned
But mostly the message was – You need to work on this
Then after going to college
Same system continued with a slight difference
Teachers didn’t care much, they needed their work to be submitted on time… Some discussions about projects.. but never more than that
Then few weeks ago
I read about a fascinating concept called – Positive Education
It is basically application of positive psychology at school level
They focus on what the child is good at
Not where she lacks, but what she already has
Cultivating strengths, building on strengths…
What a fascinating concept
I really wish I studied in such school
I wonder how different my life would have been then
How different I would have been now
On parents-teachers meeting teachers are talking about what’s good in that particular child!
Imagine the spark in child’s n parents’ eyes…
How proud.. how happy would they be….
It is doubtful whether any heavier curse could be imposed on man than the complete gratification of all his wishes without effort on his part, leaving nothing for his hopes, desires and struggles.
– Samuel Smiles
I’ve experienced this so much during lockdown. I mean my basic needs were met. But there was no need to work, like no pressure to study.
Earlier it was fun.
But then I realised there is no enjoyment without work.
No fun in being idle
Doing something you love is fun
Real joy is doing what you love and doing something engaging.. something that is really meaningful to you.
I mean seriously imagine…
What would happen if you had everything you wanted and you didn’t have to work?
Can you live like that?
Maybe for a month… Maybe three months maximum
But I cannot live like that
I realise there is so much joy in working
We don’t really give work the respect it deserves now do we?
Hating Mondays is like a worldwide phenomenon
Okay maybe I don’t get it coz I don’t work yet
But because of this lonnngggg lockdown maybe we all would have realised the importance of looking forward to work, having something good to do..
This quote made me realise that maybe we should feel blessed that we get to work.. every day
Speaking of which…
I am just done submitting my case studies and essays for positive psychology exam. yayyyyy! (just one module done! thankfully 7 more to go.. hey I love learning it.. 😅)
Now I’ve to study for final year exam next month
I’ll start from Monday!
(if I feel like studying.. :p)
But really need a break now!
Good night guyssss!!❤️❤️❤️
How do you deal with people whose behaviour you don’t approve of?
Especially when that member is of importance, your boss, or your colleague or even a family member?
Seriously what do you do?
Tbh I find it really hard to deal with these people.
With all people actually, I don’t know… I guess I am not so good at dealing with everyone
If our vibe matches?
Great. You will get to see the real me
But if it doesn’t
I might not even feel like talking to you
Idk why this happens. It’s weird… Like I kinda feel suffocated…if I’m forced to do something I don’t want to do
I am not rude as such, if the person still talks to me I will reply and all.. I’ll be good
But I won’t feel like initiating conversation or like being good and smiling all the time with that person who I don’t even like.
I have a friend who smiles and genuinely is a happy person. Even in front of the people who trouble her, or those she has problems adjusting with…
Idk how she manages that
To be so optimistic and positive
Sometimes I wish I was more of that person….
It’s not that she fakes and I’m the one being real and honest
It’s that… She is much better adjusting with all this
I can’t do that. Idk why
I want to be on good terms with everyone, I genuinely want to… But I just can’t stand some behaviours of people and I don’t know what to do then
Especially problem arises when they are older than you and have authority…
You can’t even tell them anything… They just turn the point around and everything is your fault… And then you feel bad
Ik yelling or breaking away is not the point
The person is not completely bad
But yeah…. I feel trouble adjusting (is it too millennial of me?!)
Maybe thinking about the good things they’ve done for me or reminding myself of all the good qualities they have would work.
I am still trying.
I hope I improve my relationship with this person. Matters a lot to me❤️
But seriously, I find relationships very confusing. Not romantic, every type of relationship. Even friendships some times.
Like you don’t have clue what to do….
It takes lot of time to analyse what they did wrong, where I was mistaken.. and I want to be honest here so it really takes time breaking the ego barrier and accepting my fault… Because I don’t want to loose the person.
So idk… I think a lot… It becomes too confusing
But I’m still learning to adjust…. Still learning to maintain relationships
Do you guys have any tips or anything? What do you do in such situations? Can you relate with this or just me?
Please tell me you can relate :p