Spaces in your togetherness

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

– Khalil Gibran


I’ve been reading a lot of Khalil Gibran’s poems these days. Can’t help but share them with you guys here. In this particular poem he talks about how lovers need to be together while maintaining their individual identity.

There’s this concept in psychology called “differentiation”. This was introduced by psychiatrist and family therapist Murray Bowen. The concept of differentiation includes two aspects – 1. The ability to seperate one’s feelings from thoughts. 2. The ability to maintain one’s thoughts and feelings in the presence and pressure of close, intimate relationships.

I love how beautifully this poem talks about the same. Being together while maintaining our individual identity.

3 thoughts on “Spaces in your togetherness

  1. So A Man And Or A Woman
    Shall Be Free Together As One

    And Separate
    As The Rest of
    Existence

    As Stars
    Shine on
    Each Other
    And Us Free Smiles
    Dear Vrunda Thanks
    For Sharing Another
    Inspiring Poem By

    Khalil Gibran
    i’ve Read His
    Book While
    Dancing At Barnes
    And Noble For Free
    Sunday Afternoons
    Hehe Listening to
    Meditative Music
    And Entertaining
    The Star Buck’s Cafe College
    Study Crowd Hoping to Inspire
    Them to Dance And Sing Free One

    Day Yes Free of All Worries And Even

    Reasons

    For

    Thoughts
    With SMiLes

    Only Song Free
    Coming to Surface
    of Soul to Expand
    All Our UniVerSES

    Free Together as Each
    Human is Indeed EYes
    Multi-Verses of God Whole..:)

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