How to make good things better

I was talking to my friend yesterday. We didn’t meet this year at all. Since the lockdown it has been hard to catch up and we were busy with our own… stuff.

I was speaking to her over the phone when I found myself checking Insta and stories on WhatsApp

If my mom would have seen this I’d have been scolded for like an hour or so.

“Haye ram.. kitni baar bola h is ladki ko ki ek time pe ek kaam kiya kar.. phone se itna kya lagav ki baat karte hue bhi stories dekh rahi h… jitna isko phone se dur rakho utna pareshan karti h.. kya karu main iska”

JK!

But still relatable.

It went on for like fifteen minutes and I was just saying “yes…. hmm…”

And she figured this out and asked me something silly and I said yes!

I felt so bad and apologised to her. Of course, she was mad.

But it’s not just about that situation. The fact that we have so much to do these days… you know.. its like we do not want to sit still for one single moment.

We want to something with our hands, so we scroll mindlessly through social media sites. We can’t concentrate on what is going in front of us, because we are busy thinking about something else.

Soo my point is; that it’s very easy for us to multitask. It is something we do mindlessly. Because there are so many thoughts in our mind and we feel like we have to catch up with so much, do so many things, so we multitask.

But that doesn’t work. Instead we find ourselves spending more time doing things, because we don’t get it right the first time.

Sometimes it happens that we have an entire heavenly experience in front of us and we are busy thinking about something else or doing something else.

There are soo many small amaaazing, beautiful things in our life that come and go while we are busy doing something else.

The beauty in nature, that soothing cold breeze when it rains…. We miss that because we are busy making sure we don’t get wet.

The mental image that we can capture every time we see our loved one laughing like a kid… We miss that because we are thinking about something else.

The meaningful conversation with your friend that makes you feel alive and gives you opportunity to reflect into your own soul and feel connected…. We miss that because we are getting late to go somewhere else.

I know some of these things are unavoidable. I do it many times.

But we can at least remind ourselves to be in the moment when we are doing some activity.

Its a very simple thing actually, but not easy. But we need to do it.

Even if the activity is good enough, you will have BEST experience when you are fully present.