No matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.
– Carol Dweck
– Focus more on the efforts you are making. Whatever you do, give it your best. Continue to work hard because you want to get better at your craft.
I am applying this by trying to write more blogs to improve my writing. I do not analyse my productivity or my work based on how much likes I get but on how much effort I put in. The more I continue to do so, the more I will learn and improve. It has been a radical shift in my perspective actually, choosing to focus on my efforts and working hard instead of waiting for some reward.
I remember the kind of blogs I used to write earlier, when I had just started writing and the kind of blogs I write now. There is definitely a huge difference. And it happened because I started writing more. I think focus on creating more is the key here, you will improve along the way.
If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.
– Carol Dweck
– Take on Challenges. Do not be scared of failure, its just a stepping stone towards success.
To be honest, my parents did not read this research when they were parenting me. I was the kind of girl who will try new things and if I don’t get it right the first time, I will think this is not for me and I will move on.
All this changed the moment I started reading the book ‘Mindset’ by Carol Dweck. Now I am more open to taking on challenges. I am willing to try and fail and try and fail and try again and see where it takes me. I was never a “challenge loving” person. I am still not completely, but now at least I am open to trying new things and give it a shot again and again. Even if I don’t get something right in the first attempt, I will not associate that with my self worth and try again. I found comfort in knowing that – failure is not the opposite of success, its a part of it. So true!
True self-confidence is “the courage to be open—to welcome change and new ideas regardless of their source.” Real self-confidence is not reflected in a title, an expensive suit, a fancy car, or a series of acquisitions. It is reflected in your mindset: your readiness to grow.
– Carol Dweck
– Be confident in your ability to figure things out. Not just based on your achievements or what you have already done, but your willingness to take on challenges.
I find it liberating to associate my self confidence with my efforts instead of the results. Earlier I was so focused on the outcome of my efforts that when I tried and failed, I blamed myself for it. And it did no good for my self esteem. And eventually I started getting frustrated by all this.
But now as I focus my attention on the efforts I am taking, it feels good. Its like you are in control of how much you work hard and be proud about that.
Also I have noticed that this type of confidence is more stable. When I have confidence that – I will win the next competition, it is unstable if I lose. When I have confidence that – This project is hard, but I am ready to take all the efforts, I feel stable.
You know that even if something comes to disrupt your path, you have confidence that you will figure out the way.
Mindset change is not about picking up a few pointers here and there. It’s about seeing things in a new way. When people…change to a growth mindset, they change from a judge-and-be-judged framework to a learn-and-help-learn framework. Their commitment is to growth, and growth take plenty of time, effort, and mutual support.
– Carol Dweck
Reblogged this on Nilesh Sharma and commented:
Read this amazing post on Growth Mindset by my fellow blogger Vrunda…
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Thank you for sharing Nilesh!! ❤️
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My pleasure 😊
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SMiLes Dear Vrunda Sea Turtles Swim Slow
In Flow With Ocean Colors Sadly
Rabbits Run
Fast And Multiply
The Same Way
Yet Don’t
Stay
Around Very Long
Such Is the Circle of Life
As All Of Reality Consumes
Itself Like A Snake Consuming Its Tale
For What Is Life Yet A Breath Now my FRiEnD
To Color Life Deeper in Feelings And Senses That
Are Real NoW As Now Becomes The ULTiMaTE Only
Destination of Joy To Give And Share Caring Free
With Least Harm For All in Compassion As
A Buddha Might Relate too Yes
A Jesus And Lao Tzu
And Krishna
Only Playing
Never Really
Competing in Conquest
Just Loving Life Now For Real
Cooperatively With All SMiLes Dear FRiEnD Every Word i Write
Is A Letter to Some Other Soul(s) Who Inspire in 92 Months
“SonG oF mY SoUL”; Yes, Now All 9.2 MiLLioN Words of my
LonG Form EPiC Poem; Longest One Ever ‘Technically’ Written
in History by Far now my FRiEnD in 945 MacroVerses Now That
Is Each And Every One of my Blog Posts too; Yet Before i Started
Measuring it in 2016, Then On Memorial Day Weekend When
i Started “Nether Land Bible”, 273 MacroVerses, Just a Subchapter
of the Whole Bible Poem, “SonG oF mY SoUL”, Now In Just the
60th Month Effort That is Coming for the 5 Year Anniversary
Date on Memorial Day Weekend at the End of this Month;
Currently 6,826,103 Words; Yes, Just A Subchapter and
There Is one more Ongoing titled, “FB Profile Pic Bible”
As That Subchapter Rising Past 5,224,094 Words Comprising
170 MacroVerses As Of the Last Completed One, Is Also Now
Included in All My Facebook Profile Pic Description
Areas, About An Average of 9,000 Words in Each Pic
Now in That Effort of 48 Months, 4 Years, Anniversary
Arriving on Memorial Day Weekend of this Year Since
2017 As Well As That Effort Still Continues GRoWinG Now
It’s Interesting As i’m Sure You’ve Seen Nautilus Shells
And Galaxies And Sunflowers All With The Spiraling
Golden Phi Pattern in All Of Existence Sub-Particles
Below Galaxies Above as The Spirals Start Narrow
As my MacroVerses Started At the Beginning
Close to A Thousand Words Almost Every Day
of the Week Then Like A Nautilus Shell Work
Of Art They Spread Out to 14,000 Words
Beginning With ‘Nether Land Bible’
in 2017 About Twice A Week Then
Closer to 30,000 Words Every
Week And Now As the More Outer Arms Of
A Hurricane in Bands Widening Like Galaxies too
Closer to 60,000 Words About Every 2 Weeks
Yet Doing The Math For All 92 Months About An
Average of 100,000 Words A Month in Free Verse
Poetry Continues to Flow Really in Streaming
Flow of Meditating Writing Just Pure Bliss of
Colors Creating Evermore Now With No
Concern if Anyone Looks At Them
Or Likes Them at All As True
Before i Named Subchapter
“Nether Land Bible” That
Started Well Before i Named It Birthing
It on Memorial Day Weekend of 2016
i also Published One MacroVerse titled
“GodsUniVerseNovel3”, 338,630 Words of Free
Verse Poetry Written Specifically in That Part Back
to All the Poets Linking Poetry on dVerse Online
International Poet’s Pub As Anthology of Rather
Short MicroVerses compiled Over an Entire
Year of Yes Every Prompt And Every Poet’s
Poem for An Entire Year Since April of 2015
Yes Publishing It At The End of April of 2016
And You Know What Even if Someone Had
The Patience to Open it Up it Never Received
A Single Like And Rarely A View Yet You See it
Is Only Fumes of the Art of my Soul The Important
Part the Heaven is The Journey of Coloring my Soul
in Autotelic Flow of Bliss Like Any ‘Field of Dreams’
The Only ‘He’ Who Will Come to The Fruition of my
Dream Guaranteed is me With SMiLes Hehe Now
Also As i’m Sure i’ve Mentioned Before too, 14,833
Miles of Public Dancing in 92 Months Just So Happy
To Come Out of my Shut-In Home, So Deathly Ill
in Pain And Numb For 66 Months Then; True, i Came to
Understand What Pain And Numb Severe And Long in
HeLL oN EartH Teaches Be Happy For This Breath
Now For It is Truly All We Have That is Real to Give,
Share, Caring Free For All With Least Harm Just Loving
It
All
NoW FoR ReaL…
Anyway Dear Vrunda Just Linking to Prove
That Anything Is Possible if We Just Don’t
Give Up As True It Wasn’t Just That Folks
Weren’t Liking It, Folks Were Telling me what
i Do is Nothing of Value And Ridiculous too Both
The Free Dance And Song in Heaven Now Essence Over
Form Just Just Happy Inside No Matter What Anyone Else
Thought i LEarned
Through All that
Pain and Numb
For 66 Months
What Matters Most
Is How We Feel and Sense
Within And How We Share
That Positive Energy All oF iT
Best with Others Now As it is True
In This Play of Art We Are not Limited to
Flesh and Blood For How Many Lives Our Art
May Eventually Touch On A ‘Wrong Planet’ Some
Folks Attempted to Bully Me off Calling me Mentally
Ill Pejorative Names Behind Faceless Avatars As Anyone
Can Try
to Feel
Big By Attempting
To Bring Someone Lower;
Yet You See i Already Went to
The Lowest Place Within HeLL ON EaRTH
Now THere Was No Place They Could Take me
WHeRe i Didn’t Still Have A Dance And Song To Come Out
on the Sunny Side of Shine Dear FRiEnD True When We Master
Our Emotions
in Regulating them
And Integrating Our Senses
Same in Balancing Mind And Body Soul When We
Generate Our
Own Happy Neurohormones And Neurochemicals
Through Bio-FeedBack Like Writing A Free Verse
Poetry Flow Free Verse Dancing in Autotelic
Flow Too True
Yes For All Practical
Intents And Purposes
NoW iS Eternal to Color
Ever Deeper More in Joy…
Hehe Also Writing A Thread
Approaching 500,000 Words
Of Free Verse Poetry Housing Personal
Philosophies Named “Depth of the Story”
In the Same Place Where Everyone Told me
i Didn’t Deserve to Exist as Expressing myself
Differently than Everyone else no Different than
When i Was Small Before 4 Years-Old And Even Able
To Speak on the Autism Spectrum then That Effort Has
Generated 50,050 Views Since August 19th, Limited to the Folks
On that Site; As A Google Search Result in Quotes of Number
One, It’s Impossible to tell How Many Folks Have Viewed it Who
Are Not Part of That ‘Wrong Planet’ by Membership of Folks
Who Are Considered Neurodiverse; About 5 People Said
Thank You On That Ongoing Solo Effort Yet You See
During the Entire Journey
No Matter If Anyone
Liked it or Viewed
It Or not
Every Word
A Color of Heaven For
Me Forever Eternally Within THeNoW
Now i Have All The Patience in the World
And The Ability to Love And Forgive The
Weaknesses of Others More Than Ever Before
Yes Dear Vrunda, Life IS A Practice As We Light Up
And Color Our Living Trees From Head to Toe of Soul
And Spread Those Colors Giving Sharing Caring the
Energy
Or Not
With Least Harm
For All; i Don’t Sell
Shoes; Money is No
Longer Part of my Life;
Yet i Can’t Disagree With Nike
The Company or that Term for
The Goddess of Victory Yes “Just
Do It” Do More iN Self-Advocating-Victory Now..:)
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Wow! This should be the mantra of life…so simple yet so inspiring! Really well put, Vrunda.
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Thank you so much Sarvesh!! ❤️ Means a lot! 🙂
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challenges are key .. from them ..we fail , learn , improve , try again and again until we succeed ♥️ …
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Yesss! That’s true!❤️ Keep up this perspective! 👍
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I have loved discovering Carol Dweck this term at uni. Thanks for the nice read.
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Glad you like it! 🙂
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