Should you always be positive?

The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.

– M. Scott Peck

First of all, I think it is impossible to be happy/ think in a positive way 24×7.

As positive emotions are natural, negative emotions too are natural. They hurt, yes. You feel bad. But that is necessary in many cases. Like for example, when you eat too much and do not work out, your body, stomach starts paining. That’s a negative emotion, pain. But it is teaching you something important. Take care of your body.

These negative STOP signals are so important in life.

When we do something bad, we feel guilty for a reason. We do not want to feel guilty or shameful but that is necessary because we did not behave in a nice way.

Some thorns are there to stop you so that you don’t fall off the bridge. If you go on cutting every thorn, anyone could fall off from the bridge.

There are negative things in life. There is no denial in that. Death, heartbreaks, pain, anger, etc.

So it is natural that negative emotions should also be a part of our feelings.

When someone feels bad, do not try to numb that feeling, do not try to make that person happy, immediately. Sometimes it means more comfort when you sit with that person and share the grief.

All bad emotions that lead to good changes are necessary.

We humans learn better from pain than from joy. That is why we are given some painful incidents from time to time.

What man actually needs is not a tensionless state, but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him.

– Viktor Frankl

Bad experiences also keep us from taking the good ones for granted. They help us cultivate gratitude for all the good things we have in life.

Sometimes, there is nothing for you to learn, it wasn’t your fault, but you are still feeling heartbroken, experiencing grief, pain.

I understand, no one can do anything about these things. But you do not need to try to be happy immediately or based on this one incident label yourself as a unhappy, sad person.

Try practicing self compassion. Mindful empathy. Confide in your loved ones. That will help you slowly and gradually move towards positive emotions.

And that is healthy!

There is this beautiful poem by Rumi that I love –

Guest house

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-Rumi

7 thoughts on “Should you always be positive?

  1. SMiLes Vrunda R.A.I.N. Read A Book About Rain at Barnes
    And Noble Last Evening While Dancing
    Meditatively And Listening to

    Meditative Dance

    For It’s True

    Bliss Is Made

    Up of DarK And LiGHT

    Same as Night Brings Day

    True As With Yin And Yang

    There is No Heaven Without

    A Touch of Hell And The Acronym

    R.A.I.N. i Read in the Book Represented

    Recognizing Our Feelings Allowing

    Our Feelings and Senses to

    Come Interrogating

    How We Feel

    And Sense

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    Feelings And Senses

    Are Associated With iN Life

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    Is A Book About Compassion

    Nurturing The Feelings

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    Wire Yourself

    As Sort of Like the Old

    ‘Two Wolves’ Folk Tale About

    Nourishing Pro-Social Emotions

    That Come To Stay And This Way

    We Wire Ourselves More For LiGHT

    Of Colors to Face all Shades of Grey Through

    Even BLacK Abyss of Soul And Come Out Easier

    On the Other Side As A Christmas Tree Still Lit Up And

    CoLoRinG Year ‘Round With No Need to Ever Take it Down

    Completely

    My FRiEnD

    And Plenty

    of Feelings and
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    Of R.A.I.N. And The Word Compassion i Speak of Here From ‘the Book’

    For True i Dance And Sing New Colors For Whatever Comes Before..:)

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  2. ABSOLUTELY fabulous post 🤩😍

    All emotions serve our growth and gratitude in some way.

    The quotes were provocative and inspiring and the poem, beautiful❣️

    Thanks for this gift ❤️🤗🥰

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  3. I enjoyed this article. It makes me wonder if it is possible to appreciate a thing without knowing the lack of it. Could we recognize a berry as being sweet if we had never tasted the bitter? Is great pleasure even possible without knowing extreme pain?

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    1. Actually you do have a point Michael! Yes, if you have never been to the beach, you will appreciate it much more when you go there as compared to those who live next to beach. Negative events do help us appreciate the positive more. Thank you for reading Michael 🙂 ❤️❤️❤️

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