When will you be happy?
Think about it….
Maybe you’d come up with something like – when I get a nice job, when my boyfriend stops fighting with me, when my book gets published, when…..
Can you be happy right now?
Umm… Idk maybe…
What can make you happy right now?
Hahaha… I know you were thinking something similar….
Or maybe a dog
Or maybe cat
Or maybe your best friend
Yesterday I talked to my friend and she said there is so much trouble going on right now…
I’d be so happy if this all just ends..
And I thought about it…
Do good things really happen when bad things stop happening?
She was right at her place… When everything around you
sucks hurts, you might feel like things will be much better and you would be happier without all this
But are you really happy when bad things stop happening?
You won’t have a pizza if you are not eating vegetables
You might have something else!
What I mean is, we focus too much to making the bad stuff around us go away….
We try to make things right
And that’s okay!
But we’re under illusion that this will make us happy
We might feel relief… That okay… Thankfully this is over
But are you really happy?
You need some different activities to make you smile…
As Martin Seligman once said that his patients came to him saying ‘I just want to be happy’ what he translated was that ‘you don’t want to feel distressed’ and then after working on the patients anxiety or depression issues, he thought he will get a happy patient… But he didn’t. he got an ’empty patient’. That’s when he said you cannot have mental health and wellbeing just by eliminating depression and mental illness, you need different activities to build wellbeing.
Just because it isn’t raining doesn’t mean there is sunshine
You can work on this…
Think about what really makes you happy and do more of that in your daily life
Take a little break from fixing everything n just be… Create your happiness…
Especially during these challenging times… That’s what you need to do the most 🌼💖🌻
But maybe being happy is not your priority right now… Maybe it’s caring for your friend or family member who is struggling. And that is okay, you can take some time to recharge yourself by listening to your favourite song, reading a paragraph from your favourite book or talking with your sister, just do it. Take a little time for yourself too, that way you have more to give others… When your cup is full, then you can fill others💗💕