Yes! You heard that right. Post Traumatic Growth!
I am sure few of you must’ve heard about the concept of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Oh you didn’t? Maybe coz you didn’t study psychology… Haha
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is just as the name suggests. It’s the extreme stress and discomfort you experience after a traumatic event. The traumatic event could be death of a loved one, or surviving extremely painful circumstances.
As these things sound painful and extremely distressing where stress disorder seems obvious, there is also something opposite.
Post Traumatic Growth is defined as positive outcomes arising from traumatic experiences.
How can that be?
You might ask.
Some things are just painful and cannot be related with growth or something positive.
Life is hard. Traumatic events don’t always lead to growth or finding meaning in life.
But in some cases, it does.
People experience the trauma. It’s hard. But they survive it. They aren’t thankful that something bad happened, but after that they realise that something has changed. Maybe their perspective towards life, towards themselves, towards their family or maybe now they have deeper appreciation for the present moment.
The concept of meaningful life is challenged during trauma. The questions often raised are “why me?” “what did I do to deserve this?”
This leads to feelings of helplessness and anxiety.
But in some cases, after the trauma there is –
Change in perception – People who have survived extreme circumstances now feel a increased sense of personal strength and confidence. “If I can survive this, I can survive anything”.
They have greater appreciation for life. And they know that it’s fragile. They tend to appreciate present moment more.
They view themselves as survivor. Not a victim.
Changes in Relationships – They tend to form closer ties to family. They realise the importance of family and understand how every relationship matters to them.
They share their feelings more openly. They understand there is no need of bottling up and keeping feelings hidden.
They tend to exhibit more compassion. They understand others better and show more willingness to give to others.
Changes in life priorities – They tend to have more clarity about what is more important in life. For example – they are more likely to make right choices between watching TV or talking to a friend, between scrolling on Instagram or reading a book.
They show a deeper and more spiritual sense of meaning in life.
They are not much concerned with acquiring material wealth. They find satisfaction in what they already have.
The main purpose of sharing this is that we are all going through stressful times. It is like a trauma for all of us. Maybe we can come out of this experiencing Post Traumatic Growth.
Don’t be hard on yourself. Even if you feel stressed and anxious and angry it’s okay. No hurry. Take your time to heal.
Just remember there is a ray of sunshine at the end of this tunnel.💛
Take care guys!!🌼❤️