Taking responsibility

Between stimulus and response there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

– Victor Frankl

When you say you are responsible for your actions-

Someone would be like.. “oh! so now you’re blaming me for everything?!”

And someone would be like..

“that’s empowering! So it means that no matter what happens to me, I can still choose to react the way I want… Hmmm… Maybe I’ll try to react better next time and see if the situation gets better”

Choose the response that feels right for you.

With great power comes great responsibility.

Maybe we could also reframe that as –

With great responsibility comes great power!

This is true too!

There are 6 pillars of self esteem. (according to Nathaniel Brandon.)

One of those is “self responsibility”. It means when you take responsibility for you actions and your life, you report high self esteem.

What does it actually mean to take responsibility?

It means to not blame others for your misfortune and getting up, dusting off and improving things for yourself.

This is not always easy, I get it. But please understand it’s also liberating.

When you go through a breakup, you feel sad and isolated. We can’t numb feelings, allow yourself to feel that. Don’t blame him/her. Just accept what happened. (Okay maybe go through the stage of blaming, but don’t be stuck there. Move ahead.)

After a period of time when you are feeling a little better or things start to seem a little easier, take control of your life.

Do the things you can to get better. Emotionally and mentally.

Remember no one is going to do that for you. No one is coming to save you. And also remember that You yourself can and should save you.

We are each responsible for our own life. If you are holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you are wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn’t receive. Begin noticing how each day brings a new opportunity for your growth. Pay attention. Every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road. Keep moving. Full speed ahead.

– Oprah Winfrey

31 thoughts on “Taking responsibility

  1. It’s wonderful to hear someone else express a truth I live by! When I came to the realisation that whatever happened to me in my life, was because I signed up for it, it was a bit of a shock. But, once that had worn off, I felt empowered: I was victim no more! Thanks dear Vrunda for the timely reminder 💙

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    1. Umm… I wouldn’t say bad happens because you signed up for it.. but definitely I believe you can save yourself. We can make our lives better.
      I am glad you found this post at the right time! ❤️❤️
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts 💕🌼


  2. Well expressed Vrunda…
    Taking responsibility of own actions is what most of us lack …..if we can achieve it ..majority of the problems in lifevwill be over…
    God bless you 🙏

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    1. Yesss!
      Awww thank you so much for your blessings and kind words Krish!!❤️❤️❤️ I really appreciate your thoughtful comments 🌼 thanks a lot for being here💕

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  3. Taking responsibility is so important, and part of it is to accept consequences of past choices that were not so good and learn from them.
    In our shame and scarcity culture we believe shaming and raging against ourself (and other) will move us forward, but there is nothing further from reality.
    I understand your point of view that you need to save yourself, and that works well for those who may have the gifts to do so, but there are many, who have been traumatized to a point if not being able to find a place of forgiveness and self stewardship.
    Finding help when we can’t come out anymore is also taking responsibility. Admitting that we can’t do it alone is also strength and courage. Therefor I am somewhat ambivalent on Kprah Winfreys quote, she is right for 70% of people but the other 30% need help.
    God bless, thanks for your valued opinion piece here. 👍🏻🙂

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    1. That’s soooo true John. I like the way you said “admitting we can’t do it alone is also strength and courage” yesss❤️ definately!
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts John💕🌼


    2. Thanks for your comments dear John. Just because social culture supports and encourages the blame and shame game, we don’t have to participate. Standing alone (and with loving divine backing) we can achieve both forgiveness and self stewardship. It may take a lifetime (or more than one), but then…who is counting! In the meanwhile by loving and caring for each other we also love and care for our inner self. 💙

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      1. Yayyyy 💙 .. And as Soul, living in this physical body for a while, my sole purpose is to become the very best I can be. It takes courage to confront oneself, but, after all, why would I want to fool me? It would be a waste of time. In my experience, once we gain awareness of something, we can no longer deny it. At least that’s what happens for me. 💙

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  4. I love the Frankl quote – start with the awareness of the “space” between a stimulus and our response and then reflect on our choices to create better days❣️🤗

    Gets better with practice -thankfully 😊

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