Between stimulus and response there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
– Victor Frankl
When you say you are responsible for your actions-
Someone would be like.. “oh! so now you’re blaming me for everything?!”
And someone would be like..
“that’s empowering! So it means that no matter what happens to me, I can still choose to react the way I want… Hmmm… Maybe I’ll try to react better next time and see if the situation gets better”
Choose the response that feels right for you.
With great power comes great responsibility.
Maybe we could also reframe that as –
With great responsibility comes great power!
This is true too!
There are 6 pillars of self esteem. (according to Nathaniel Brandon.)
One of those is “self responsibility”. It means when you take responsibility for you actions and your life, you report high self esteem.
What does it actually mean to take responsibility?
It means to not blame others for your misfortune and getting up, dusting off and improving things for yourself.
This is not always easy, I get it. But please understand it’s also liberating.
When you go through a breakup, you feel sad and isolated. We can’t numb feelings, allow yourself to feel that. Don’t blame him/her. Just accept what happened. (Okay maybe go through the stage of blaming, but don’t be stuck there. Move ahead.)
After a period of time when you are feeling a little better or things start to seem a little easier, take control of your life.
Do the things you can to get better. Emotionally and mentally.
Remember no one is going to do that for you. No one is coming to save you. And also remember that You yourself can and should save you.
We are each responsible for our own life. If you are holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you are wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn’t receive. Begin noticing how each day brings a new opportunity for your growth. Pay attention. Every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road. Keep moving. Full speed ahead.
– Oprah Winfrey