40 rules of love

I am getting more and more interested in spirituality these days. When you start thinking about “whys and hows” in life, when you get curious about how it all works, you find yourself getting attracted to spirituality.

And as you read more n more about spirituality you get your answers and learn the right way to think about certain things..

To be honest with you guys, I never really thought I would ever be so much interested in spirituality. I have always been the girl who believes in science and ‘the things she sees’. So being interested in spirituality, something you can only experience by feeling and believing was new and to be honest scary for me.

There are still some concepts in spirituality that I cannot find the right way to implement in today’s world. Some concepts do seem good in theory but don’t seem logical in practice. I know I still have a long way to go.

But you know what, I’m liking it. I am enjoying the journey of figuring out all this spiritual stuff and exploring a new world with different experiences.

Somehow, spiritual talk feels right..

Okay so I don’t want to sound boring right now. I just want to share with you guys 6 nuggets of wisdom I gained from the book 40 rules of love by Elif Shafak.

Destiny doesn’t mean that your life has been predetermined. Therefore, to leave everything to fate and to not actively contribute to the music of the universe is a sign of sheer ignorance. Your destiny is the level where you will play your tune. You might not change your instrument, but how well you play is in your hands.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love

If you want to strengthen your faith you will need to soften inside. For your faith to be rock solid, your heart needs to be as soft as feather. Through illness, accident, loss or fright, one way or the another, we all are faced with incidents that teach us to become less selfish and judgmental and more compassionate and generous. Yet some of us learn the lesson and become milder, while others end up becoming harsher than before. The only way to get close to Truth is to expand your heart so that it will encompass all humanity and still have room for more Love.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love.

The past is an interpretation. The future is an illusion. The world does not move through time as if it were a straight line, proceeding from past to future. Instead time moves through and within us, in endless spirals. Eternity does not mean infinite time, but simply timeless. If you want to experience eternal illumination, put past and future out of your mind and live within the present moment.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is far too much fear and blame welled inside us. If we see God as full of love and compassion, so are we.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love

Patience means to be farsighted enough to trust the end result of a process. It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night and see the dawn. Impatience is to be so short-sighted as to not be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience for they know time is needed for crescent moon to become full.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love

The quest for love changes us. There is no seeker among those who search for Love who hasn’t matured on the way. The moment you start seeking Love, you start to change within and without.

– Elif Shafak, The forty rules of love


If you have time, I do encourage you to read 40 rules of love. It’s a wonderful book. Even if you’re not so much into spirituality, you will enjoy the stories. I especially love the way it’s written from different character’s perspective. A good read overall.

Hope you’re all doing well. Take care friends, stay safe! ❤️

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