Best possible selves

How many of the following statements you agree with?

1. I know all the things that are wrong in life

2. I spend too much time thinking about things that don’t go right

3. I don’t know what I really want in my life

4. Life no longer feels good, it’s all bad things happening around me

If you can relate to at least 2 of these statements keep reading. Here’s something you can do..

Why don’t we think about good things that can happen in future?

Because we don’t want good to happen in future…?

Nah! That’s rubbish

So why not?

Maybe we have this fear that if we visualise everything good happening to us… We’ll be disheartened when it doesn’t happen.

Well yeah… Maybe

But then what to we do?

We spend so much time thinking about all that’s not going well in our life.

But do we ever ask ourselves what if this negative doesn’t happen? What if it’s not so intense? What if you realise that you’ve spent all my life thinking about things that could go wrong and it never happened?

Wouldn’t that be a wastage of your time and energy?

Thinking positively about your future and your present or being optimistic, can have lots of benefits in the long run.

Imagine this. Rohan works in a bank. Though he never wanted to work in a bank, he dreamt of being a comic artist. He’s really good at making comics. He makes lots of funny, interesting comics. But he never sells them or shows them to anyone. Why? Because he’s pessimistic about his art. He thinks his profession cannot be changed now, that’s his destiny. He has to accept it.

What would have you done, if you were Rohan?

You’d have started your own Instagram page.. doing this “side hustle” thing. Creating videos on YouTube about making comics or sending your comics to magzines and all?

Why would you do that?

Because you believe there’s something better out there. Because you are “optimistic” about your future. Because you think you deserve what you dream of.

That’s why optimism is necessary. When you are optimistic about something and you think this can be done, you invest even more into that thing. You don’t easily give up.

Optimism motivates you to work hard.

Optimistic thinking enhances happiness. You feel good about yourself and your future. That affects your overall wellbeing.

If you have something to look forward to, you will feel energised, motivated, enthusiastic.

You will feel good about yourself and feel able to control your destiny

– Sonja Lyubomirsky

Well, all this seems like common sense right?

So here’s how you can apply this common sense in your daily life –

In this activity you have to write about how will your life look like 3/5 years from now.

“Imagine yourself in future, everything has gone as well as it possibly could. You have worked hard and succeeded at accomplishing all your life goals. Think of this as a realisation of your life dreams and your best potential”

These were the instructions given by Sonja Lyubomirsky to the participants who did this “best possible selves” activity. This wonderful activity was designed by Laura King – Professor at University of Missouri-Columbia.

If you think it’s all about “wishful thinking” or fantasizing your dream life, then hello, let me clear that.

No, it’s not about daydreaming or anything. You have to also find ways of how you can achieve that dream life. Think about what you are doing right now or what you can do to achieve your goals.

What are the benefits?

– For starters you’ll be clear about what you exactly want in your life. Think about it – how many of you have clear idea about how you want your life to look like in 3 years? And what are you doing about it now?

As I said you’ll find answer to these questions.

– Then, you will end up feeling a sense of autonomy about your future. And also a sense of responsibility, to make these dreams come true.

– If you do this activity once a week for 3 months or so, your happiness levels will gradually increase.

When you think about good stuff and most importantly write about good stuff, you tend to feel more motivated, dedicated towards your goal.

If you identify yourself as a pessimist or want to feel more motivated and inspired towards your goals… What are you waiting for? Grab a pen and paper and do this activity!

And don’t forget to tell me how it goes! 😉

Stay happy, stay blessed! ♡

16 responses to “Best possible selves”

  1. Really motivating yet practical approach Vrunda…👍 I have this friend, everytime I tell him to be positive about something, he tells me what if it wouldn’t work out. Just because of fear of disappointment in future he doesn’t even try to grab a hope.. I m going to share this post with him..hope it works

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    1. Yeah do share! I hope it helps him look at things in a different way..
      Thanks a lot Lavanya for your support!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
      I’m so grateful to you ♥️🙏
      Love hearing from you


  2. Wow really inspirational and creative too psycho-girl. 💙💙💙💙
    I agree with you in each and every bit. And I relate to the first 2-3 points as well. It’s so hard though being optimistic but there pain both ways. One way leads to happiness though. You just gotta choose 💙💙💙💙

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    1. Hahaha… This “psycho-girl” sounds cool 😁😁😁

      Yep! You got it! Being optimistic is most of the times the right choice…. Thank youuuu so much for reading ❤️❤️

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      1. Yeap 💙💙💙💙💙


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    1. Wow! Yessss😍
      That’s so beautiful way to put it Katie! So creative and fun ❤️
      Thank you so much for reading ♥️
      Have a great weekend!!

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      1. Thank You Vrunda..
        i Find Your Blog inspiring
        Keep up the Great Work!❤️😁🦋

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      2. Means a lot Katie! I’m so grateful to you❤️ just made my day❤️❤️
        Hopefully some day even I can compose beautiful lines as you😁

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      3. When We write from
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      4. Thisss❤️❤️❤️
        Yes Katie! Thank you sooo much for your blessings.. I love your words♥️

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      5. Thank you
        Blessed Wishes
        For your Weekend too!❤️

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  4. Vruuu I guarantee dat every1 can relate d starting and esp d way u mold cant into can …..dis was literally amazing …..honey udk but u r actually making pplz approach positive in life …….I am so happy for you ……one of d best blog ….stay happy stay blessed……..

    Wait um m so lucky to have you yarrr love you …..
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    1. Maniiii❤️❤️❤️❤️😍😍😍😍😍 I’m so happppyyyy to hear from you ♥️
      aaphise toh sikha hai sabkuch..😁
      Thank you sooo much for your kind words and support… You know how much it means to me!❤️❤️❤️❤️ love you loadssss😘😘😘♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️


  5. Very rightly said and beautifully penned that we get in life whatever we demand from life not want……conversion of should into must is required

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    1. Yesss! That’s true.
      Thanks a lot for reading!!❤️❤️❤️

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