Vrunda Chauk

letting go of expectations, embracing reality and trying to get better every day! ❤️

Labels

We need reasons
Reasons for everything
Not just a reason,
We like to label

When I am scared to speak in public
I label myself as introvert
I don’t try to see whether it’s my extreme fear or just a feeling everyone goes through

When I label myself
I repeat
I am an introvert.. I am an introvert..
So I try to behave like one

That day I thought of saying what I felt in class
In front of everyone
But,
“Introverts don’t speak in public, they don’t like attention”

Thus I killed my desire numerous times,
To fit into the category
I gave myself

One day I was forced to enter in elocution competition
I closed my eyes and told myself
I am not afraid of speaking in public
It’s not that bad

I didn’t get a round of applause
But my teacher beamed at me
“Yes, you spoke!”

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36 responses to “Labels”

  1. Ayush Avatar
    Ayush

    Whenever I see a lovely thing called mic waiting for me… My heart starts beating like hell😅
    But then… “Baad me yahi chize to yaad aayengi” 😳😂

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Yess😂😂 I can totally relate

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  2. Simon Nisha Avatar
    Simon Nisha

    Can totally relate 😂, I am an introvert all my life , and i manage a 100 team members now and giving motivation 😂 if my parents knew dey wil b like shocked, even i dont beleive myself after every speech ☺️ i still call myself introvert. It is a one time fear, u get that opportunity grab the mic do it. We are just introvert and we dont fear 💪 right? ✨😉✨

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Wow!! It must have been hard for you while starting to manage so many people. I’m so glad you learnt it and now you’re an expert!
      Yes, I do believe we can do anything we want. The label of introvert or anything shouldn’t stop us from achieving what we want.
      Great story of yours Simon!
      Thank you so much for sharing!!♥️♥️😊

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      1. Simon Nisha Avatar
        Simon Nisha

        im glad 🤗… Can still remember my firstday 😂..

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      2. Vrunda Avatar
        Vrunda

        Haha… I can imagine 😂

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  3. The Dreamcatcher Avatar
    The Dreamcatcher

    So relatable. And well said 😊

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Thanks a lot my friend!♥️🙏

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  4. Sid Avatar
    Sid

    I could relate so much to this. I’m not a stage-scared person but talking to someone new just fills me with redness. But yeah, we shouldn’t lable ourselves as introverts or extroverts. Also, the way you wrote this was so unique. A story but in a poem form. Loved it 💙💙

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Everyone here is getting into the battle of introverts and extroverts… I just used it to highlight my point of not labelling people!😅
      You finally understood what I meant! Haha…. I really felt so good reading your comment! Thank you so much♥️♥️
      P.S – I do experience anxiety talking to strangers too! But I feel comfortable talking to strangers with my best friend around..

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      1. Sid Avatar
        Sid

        Yeah exactly. When friends are around we feel like we’re on top of the world for some reason 😂. Dunno why.

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      2. Vrunda Avatar
        Vrunda

        😄 we’re in our comfort zone with them… So trying to carry best friends for every interaction with strangers 😂😂

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      3. Sid Avatar
        Sid

        😂😂yup

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  5. Pratik Akkawar Avatar
    Pratik Akkawar

    Let me tell you something very important Vrunda. Introverts can become extroverts and can learn whatever they want and be best at it. The opposite might be difficult. So yeah, humans have this ability to learn and implement new things. Just don’t worry about “log kya kahenge” and give your best every time. I am an introvert too but I am learning the skills at my own pace. Hopefully, I would get there where I want to be. 😀 Good topic chosen as always. Bring something we could have debate on. 😉

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Yeah, my point was not to label yourself as anything as then you try to stick to it. Try whatever you want no matter you are good at it or no. Labels hold us back.
      Let’s not debate on this one😄

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      1. Pratik Akkawar Avatar
        Pratik Akkawar

        No.. no debate on this as I too don’t want to label myself and eventually limit myself to do anything 😀 Have a nice day!

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      2. Vrunda Avatar
        Vrunda

        😁😁
        Hope you have a great day as well! ❤️

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  6. Sneha Ganesh Avatar
    Sneha Ganesh

    Loved the way this was written. I’m not someone who is afraid to speak in public but sometimes a little bit of fear creeps into me too!!

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Yeah! It happens to all of us. Labelling it and trying to suppress the urge to speak is what stops us from trying. When you label yourself, you try to stick to it and that brings problems.
      Thank you for your feedback Sneha! Appreciate it❤️😊

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      1. Sneha Ganesh Avatar
        Sneha Ganesh

        Absolutely! It’s always fun and challenging to do something you thought you were afraid of doing!

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  7. Ellen Avatar
    Ellen

    That’s absolutely lovely that you got over your stage fear! Now you can help me get over mine! 😉😁

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Hehe… Come for my private classes😜 Registrations open!

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      1. Ellen Avatar
        Ellen

        Hahaha definitely!! I’m in. 😀

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  8. B€yoNd wo®ds_ Avatar
    B€yoNd wo®ds_

    Good post 🌸

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Thank you so much!!🙏😊

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  9. Accidental Blogger Avatar
    Accidental Blogger

    This is so relatable and beautifully written 🙌
    I’m glad to know that you finally spoke😊

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      Thanks a lot Sumeet!❤️

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  10. Paul Sunstone Avatar
    Paul Sunstone

    Your poem strikes me as very perceptive and insightful. I’m curious why you chose to express these thoughts as a poem? That is, it occurs to me you had a choice between a poem and a mini-essay. I’m just curious — I don’t have an opinion on which format would be better.
    I’ve noticed also that we label ourselves according to our likes and dislikes — so, for instance, we might think of ourselves as someone who likes cherries. Then, a few years later, we realize we do not really like cherries, but that we’ve been eating cherries for years only because we have labeled ourselves as someone who likes them.

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      That is so true!!! My mom thinks I like chocolates.. I mean I do like chocolates..but not much.. whenever there is chocolate cake in our home she reserves a big piece for me! N I’m like… Mom I can’t eat that much😅 I used to eat till school actually… So yeah! I agree liking labels work

      I chose as a poem because.. that scene I imagined just came naturally to my mind in a poem format… And instead of just telling “don’t label” I wanted to share a story of what happens when you label and why exactly not to label… That is more appealing I guess

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      1. Paul Sunstone Avatar
        Paul Sunstone

        I agree that when you make the same point abstractly and then in terms of a story or an image, the story or image sticks with you quite a bit longer.

        Once a friend of mine confessed he didn’t understand poetry — he thought all that imagery was “pretentious”. I tried to explain to him that the imagery — among other functions — serves to make the message or theme of the poem memorable. Poor guy still didn’t get poetry. But then — he had spent his whole career programming computers. I suspect that could have had a little bit to do with it.

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      2. Vrunda Avatar
        Vrunda

        Maybe… I love to read poems written about nature.. they just create this beautiful picture in your mind about nature and you fell in love with the poem❤️
        Which ones do you like?

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      3. Paul Sunstone Avatar
        Paul Sunstone

        With me, it’s not so much the topic, it’s whether I find something about the poem striking, unusual, or especially well done.

        For instance, someone might write a love poem in which they liken their confused heart to a disturbed ant’s nest — to me a striking image.

        Or they might use short, choppy phrases combined with one and two syllable words to suggest agitation or anxiety. An interesting combination of form and meaning.

        Or they might write a poem that stands out for being revealingly honest about their feelings or values.

        Recently, a friend wrote a poem in which she played around with the words “I” and “you” in such a way that she created a sense of emotional intimacy with her audience.

        I guess I’m on the look out for what comes across to me as extraordinary.

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      4. Vrunda Avatar
        Vrunda

        Sounds great!

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  11. Savvy Raj Avatar
    Savvy Raj

    When you see and move beyond labels all the doubts and insecurities drop off on their own. And you find your own truthful voice to reach out from .Nice post Vrunda . ⚘❤⚘

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    1. Vrunda Avatar
      Vrunda

      So true! I like the way you put it my friend!
      Thanks a lot for your feedback ❤️❤️🙏😊

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  12. Manoj Mehra Avatar
    Manoj Mehra

    Introverts live in their own world. Read my blog ‘Being introvert’

    Being introvert

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