Me

“It’s okay”
“It happens”
“Don’t worry”
“Everything will be alright”

I find myself saying this to my friends, family and colleagues

But when something goes wrong with me
All I say is –
“You could’ve done better”
“How dumb you are!”
“What will they think about you?”

I fight myself while I try to heal others
I am harsh on myself
While I try to be kind to others

I need to remind myself
I am human too
I make mistakes too
I am allowed to forgive myself

I need to give myself what I’ve given others
I need to love myself the way I love others

© Vrunda Chauk

52 responses to “Me”

  1. Been there. I had very demanding parents, and their lectures about nothing being good enough still manifest as self doubt and recriminations to this day.

    Realizing the problem is half the battle to overcoming it though. 🙂

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    1. It must be really hard for you to cope up with their high expectations and demands. Being kind to yourself is a choice you can always make. When you start talking to yourself as you would to a loved one, it will feel easy to get along❤
      Much love and hugs ❤❤

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  2. Wow, this is exactly what I do too! 😁
    So well written, Vrunda! 💛 Self-love is so important!

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    1. Yes! It all starts with self I guess..
      Glad you liked it dear.. thanks a lot for your kind words ❤🙏
      Happy Sunday 💕

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  3. True words! ❣️

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    1. Thank you Lily ❤🙏
      Happy Sunday 💕

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  4. Well i can relate this to me. We try to preach the world about positive things and our mind gets turned off when we trying to help within. True words ✨👍

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    1. Yes.. it’s a sad reality.. we need to be more kind and patient towards ourselves as well.
      Thank you so much for your feedback! ❤🙏
      Happy Sunday Nisha 💕

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      1. Thank you 🥰. And Nisha is my wife she is my best half and my motivator. i keep her name in my last name as i liked it.

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      2. Oh!😅
        So your name is Simon!
        Its the first time I hear someone keeping the name of his wife as last name. But nice to see you doing so❤

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      3. Ha ha 😊 Yes i am Simon.. Thought some girls may take it wrong and serious especially from my country. so i want u to be aware. This is a tradition that we humans created. A tradition can be created or modified. Let me be the creator of this one😊. It wont hurt right.

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      4. Wow! I like this tradition of yours. I’m sure your wife must be really proud of you😊

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      5. Yes she is…😊 we are cool with it.

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      6. That’s so sweet!
        Seeing this love of you both towards each other made my day!😊
        Blessings and love to you and your wife!🙏

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      7. Thank you so much for your kind words and blessings 🥰

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  5. This is soooo good and well written. i can totally relate. Thank YOU once more for your delightful and wise words, dear Vrunda.

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    1. Krishnapriya… You’re always so kind ❤ Thank you for your encouragement and appreciate your kind words 🙏❤
      Means a lot!
      Happy Sunday dear 💕

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      1. Going for my music class now — learning a song, “Shyam Sundar, Madan Mohan, Jago mere laal.” How can it not be happy? Sending you some of His sweet flute music, dear sweet Vrunda. Stay blessed and beautiful always! 🙂

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      2. Aww…you sing? Wow! That’s beautiful
        The moment I read “sweet flute music” I imagined some beautiful tone being played by Him…😍
        It’s so nice to hear such kind words from you on such a beautiful Sunday morning!💕
        Sending love and peace and blessings your way❤🙏
        Have a great time at class today!😊

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    1. Thank you Taruna!!❤🙏
      Happy Sunday 💕

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      1. Same to you❤️

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  6. Ramyani Bhattacharya Avatar
    Ramyani Bhattacharya

    Extremely extremely true. This is what happens with me. I am so good at giving advices but when the same things happen to me, I criticise myself😐We really need to understand ourselves and love ourselves .. very relatable post 😊

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    1. Happens to me too! 😫 But improving slowly..😅
      Thank you so much for reading Ramyani! Appreciate your kind words ❤❤
      Happy Sunday 💕

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      1. Ramyani Bhattacharya Avatar
        Ramyani Bhattacharya

        My pleasure 😁

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  7. I am not entirely sure why some of us find it so hard to love ourselves as much as others, but realising it is the first step cause we cannot change a pattern or tendency we are not aware of. xoox

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    1. Sometimes I think we cannot truly love someone if we don’t love ourselves.. you can’t give what you don’t have right?
      Yeah, we need to be aware of this behaviour of ours… Acceptance is the first step to change.
      Nice hearing from you my friend!
      Hope you have a blessed day❤

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      1. I am .hope you are too 💞🌹

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      2. Thank you!😊

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  8. Sohanpreet Kaur Avatar
    Sohanpreet Kaur

    Yes you are right, we need to forgive ourselves too

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    1. Yes! Thank you for reading, Sohanpreet!❤️
      Happy Sunday 💕

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  9. I’m so glad to have stumbled upon this ♥️ I used to beat up myself when I’m down, I’m no more that person. Wish everybody gets to read this. Keep going your great work!

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    1. Even I did that for a long time. Especially when I was a teenager. (Just stepped out of it btw😁)
      One day I saw the Ted talk of Kristin Neff on self compassion. And oh boy.. it resonated so well!
      Being kind to myself since and life’s going good!♥️😊
      Thank you for reading ❤️

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      1. I’m glad you came out of it and learnt to love yourself ♥️ you can link the videos that enlightened you in the bottom of your posts so everybody could be open to it ♥️ lots of love.

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      2. I’ll definitely try that. Thanks ♥️♥️

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  10. Mathew Philip Avatar
    Mathew Philip

    🖐☺

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  11. Heartfully said! ❤

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    1. Thank you!!❤️

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  12. Have you figured out how to love yourself?

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    1. The day I started talking kindly to myself, I began loving myself ❤

      It all comes in a flow when you stop being harsh with yourself

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      1. That makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

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  13. It’s happens , I can relate with this. Nice and thought provoking.

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    1. Thank you so much Rekha! Glad you liked it❤️

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  14. We tend to be so hard on ourselves. Sometimes, self-judgment is ruthless and brutal😖

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    1. So true Sarah!
      We tend to judge ourselves more than we judge others I guess…
      Thanks for reading Sarah ❤️😊

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      1. Scribbles by Sara Avatar
        Scribbles by Sara

        You’re welcome ❤️

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  15. Me too feel like this.

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    1. Yeah! We need to be more kind to ourselves ❤️

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